why does every trans meme assume we change our name to just the other gendered version of our dead names lol. It's a trope at this point, but speaking as a trans woman that would be dysphoric af.

I guess, to be fair, I actually considered making my middle name similar to my dead name as a way out for my parents from the "it's just hard for us" but I realized I hated that idea and screw them if they think respecting me is too hard for them.

Edit: btw 2 years post come out and my dad finally used my chosen name for the first time. They can change, though my dad keeps misgendering, which shows me his heart isn't in the right place. He's thinking "appease" me as in his heart I'm still a guy, even though he definitely glanced at my chest... guh