Solved: thanks to u/dbkblk@lemmy.world; remember to add these USE flags to wpa_supplicant

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I am facing this peculiar issue that i can connect to every WiFi connection except my router, it's a recent gentoo install with no display server, i am using a D-link WiFi USB card

What I have tried:

• using iw dev (device) scan to list the ssid and try connecting with wpa_supplicant
  • dhcpcd waits for connection then times out (does connect succesfully to my phones hotspot)
• gave up and spent 3 hours compiling NetworkManager
  • every ssid shows up in nmcli dev wifi list except my router
  • forcing a connection passing bssid shows id not found
  • manually setting the connection using nmcli add also does not work
  • iw dev (device) scan lists my routers ssid along with others
  • nothing is blocked in NetworkManager and I spent hours going back and forth with chatgpt trying to force a connection to no avail
• tried changing router setting(including changing broadcasting channels verifying, black lists etc)

What i have ruled out

• its not the dlink wifi card or the laptop, I can connect to my router just fine using nmcli in a live fedora instance on the same laptop

I have tried every conceivable thing and I cant find what the issue is, it's like my router and Gentoo have some bad blood between them