Why do you think its a problem that this is discussed a lot? Its a huge deal, so its only good its discussed and not accepted by everyone. I think this is healthy. We only read about the drama and a few quotes, but if you look closer then their argumentation makes a bit more sense. It is not just drama for the sake of drama. Some maybe toxic, that is another thing, because they would be toxic with other topics too.

Here is in a videoformat from ThePrimeagen (programmer at Netflix, or he was, not sure about current state) going through a recent discussion in the Linux Kernel mailing list about this topic. It's about a hour long and adds some thoughts on its own too, which was valuable to me. - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8QcQ_128OIw