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this post was submitted on 24 Feb 2025
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I'm working on transitioning to using They/Them pronouns for everyone since they're completely neutral and fit every context. If your preference is Xe/Xem, I respect that—but unfortunately, my brain just doesn't have the bandwidth to keep track of multiple pronouns consistently. You get They/Them.
I agree with the mental bandwidth. I'm fine with he/him, she/her, they/them. I'll also tend to default to appearance, though I will try and correct if asked to do so.
I've yet to find anyone who wasn't also an arsehole who has an issue with this. That includes places where seeing an obvious male in a dress could equally be someone taking their first steps away from norm, or just a guy that likes wearing dresses. Also, neither was seen as unusual at the event.