I believe the adage "business in the front, party in the back" applies here. For me the gayness is far more in what a man would do with his own reproductive organ, rather than what another dick happens to be up to.

Pegging of course is totally a normal and common thing in hetero relationships and nobody says that is gay as her flushed bosom is pressed sweatily up against your back, perhaps the most feminine act a woman can perform for her male lover.

Receptive anal intercourse from a guy is only maybe twice as gay as having a man massage aching shoulders, as one's own reproductive organ isn't (necessarily) involved. Fucking another dude in the ass is orders of magnitude gayyer, and entirely unlike anal sex where a woman is the receptive partner.

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