I'm editing this to just say, I'd rather not be the person who fights on the internet like this, I would much much rather make friends. So, thank you for taking the time to respond, I appreciate your input!

~~Doormerism is an issue, especially when it comes from adults who don't know how to help. This is trauma, and this is one tool to tackle that trauma. I'm not saying we tell kids "hey cheer up that should fix it" - I'm saying we use hope as a tool to fight cynical defeatism. Which, I would submit, is all your comment achieves. Do you have an alternative?~~