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In the depths of COVID I was trying to do everything I could to make a point of doing everything I could to support my partner, who was a teacher at the time so she couldn’t work from home. Her school was full of kids who would act up and she got COVID a number of times. She was always exhausted and so I would try to make dinner most days and I would try to clean the house at least once a week before she got home. It was work but seeing her be thankful for it honestly just made me happy to help.
My birthday rolled around and she asked if, even though I don’t like cake that much, I would like a black forest gateau since we had been binging The Great British Bakeoff and I told her that sounded delicious. On my birthday, she worked for hours to make this cherry cake for me and I offered to help many times but she insisted that she do it herself.
When she reached the point of the construction when she had to make the whipped cream that she was gonna put in between the layers, the cream wouldn’t stiffen up even though she whipped it for like 20 minutes. She had been working on this cake for so long and it was already getting pretty late (like 9 pm or later). She broke down crying.
I don’t think I’ll ever forget that birthday. I don’t think I ever felt more loved or appreciated. I don’t think anyone has ever wanted to do something for me as badly as she wanted to make that cake for me. I tear up literally every time I think about this moment.
Ultimately it turned out she had bought cream instead of heavy whipping cream (or double cream) and so I offered to run to the nearest open store to get some while she worked on other parts of the cake that were yet to be finished.
That turned out to be the most gorgeous and the most motherfucking delicious cake I’ve ever eaten.
I’m absolutely crazy about her. She’s the best. I wouldn’t ever expect to say I love the thought of her crying, but this one memory makes me so happy.
I have no idea how this story will come across to other people, but I want to share it because it really is something so special to me
That's a rough memory, but you see the beauty in the reasons and the motivations. Truly, it can be the thought that counts.
Memories are multidimensional. It was such a dark time but this was one the most memorable moments in it.