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this post was submitted on 19 Aug 2023
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Did your "friend" make you feel bad for getting mad at him? Frankly, it doesn't sound like you owed him an apology at all - and if he didn't apologise, he absolutely should have done.
When people get justifiably angry because their boundaries have been broken, emotionally abusive bullies often try to make their targets feel bad for "getting emotional". It's all an attempt to redirect the fact that they wronged you, not the other way around.
Oh no, he laughed it off like water off of a duck's back. At this point, I just think of it as a quirk of our relationship. I'm more willing to give him the benefit of the doubt, because when push comes to shove, I know he'd have my back. Shit can't be perfect, but calling it once in a blue helps.
Laughing when someone's angry at you for something you've done isn't a very positive reaction.
Of course you know your friendship better than we do, but nothing you've written makes it sound like you ever owed him an apology.