cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/25042034
This post is "FYI only" for blahaj lemmy members. It is not a debate, and is not intended for non blahaj lemmy users to weigh in and offer opinions.
I recently received reports of a feddit.uk user espousing transphobia. Specifically, this was a feddit.uk user refusing to use the word cis, repeating the "adult human female" dog whistle, and claiming that trans women are not women. I approached a member of the feddit.uk admin team and raised my concerns and sought clarification of their stance on posts like this, where the transphobia is mostly dogwhistles, and "civil disagreement" on the validity of trans folk.
I was told by the feddit.uk admin that their preferred response is this kind of transphobia is to "sort it out through discussion and voting". However, the comments in question are currently more upvoted than downvoted, and little "sorting out" has occurred. The posts remain in place.
At this point, the admin stopped responding to my messages despite being active elsewhere on lemmy. When it became clear they were ignoring my messages and had no intention of removing the posts in question, I made the decision to defederate the instance.
I know some folk agree with the feddit.uk admins approach of pushback through discussion and voting, but this instance is not designed to be that kind of space. Blahaj lemmy is meant to be a place where we can avoid the rampant transphobia universally visible on nearly every other social media platform, and where we can exist without needing to debate our right to do so.
I spoke to the admins who most rudely banned you, and it turns out you aren't banned in the way it seems (also keeping in mind that the whole point of the fediverse is to design the several instances to be philosophically against the existence of bans, which implies that the notion that any of these incidents towards you "count as bans" is wrong, and that your haters who don't know this don't know how the fediverse was intended to work), and they gave me permission to tell you (they wanted to tell you via Discord server, since they know you are big on that) that you may be considered unbanned in the eyes of the masses in the sense that you have permission to sign up again as MissKiwi as a part of the process to clean up the mess, since the modlogs now bear indication that what happened to you was veiled discrimination against your autism. They plan to ensure you're transferred over and then remove your current traces because it's easier.