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A tax on people-pleasing
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this post was submitted on 12 May 2025
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I mean, it's kinda true.
Some places do tip sharing, but not most (though most have some sort of tipping out to the back of house staff,) and obviously you pay taxes on tips.
But I think the sentiment was that it's not lining the pockets of the business owner, which is true.
Because servers are abused so heavily they have no options to resist. They don't like the situation either but if people stop tipping then they are worried they will be poor.
Its like if you were imprisoned in my house, and I fed you home-cooked meals but put a somewhat tolerable amount of poison in each meal as well. If you complained about the poison, and I said well I guess you could just not eat at all, then you might say something like "well I don't like poison necessarily but I do need it to survive right now."
I wouldnt call you pro-poison if you said that though, just like I don't think most of these tipped workers support the structure of tipping.
Peer pressure. It feels to most people that choosing not to tip is itself an action, and they are worried other people will judge them for it. Same reason people return carts at the grocery store, for the most part.
No, servers go along with it because they have no choice. Customers go along with it because of social pressure, and to some extent fear of retribution.