you had one choice that wasn’t actively also trying to destroy your own country

If both parties are doing a genocide right now, how can you argue this is a bad thing?

From a global perspective, the U.S. empire can't end soon enough. It'll even be good for the U.S. if we manage to take all that money reserved for worldwide slaughter and build houses and pay for education with it. Unfortunately, none of that appears likely to happen unless the empire crashes and burns first. Whether we can make something better out of that is another question.