In most of the world as it should be, the process is:

• Someone makes accusations against another person
• Someone else asks why, backing behind the accusations
• There is a response indicating the "why" because that's a sensible thing to ask

In toomanypancakes-world, apparently, it is:

• Someone makes accusations against another person
• How dare you I know I saw receipts but I can't find them right now anyway I'm disabled so it's not fair for you to ask that kind of thing but I'm certain that these outlandish accusations I am making are accurate

I'm not asking you to apologize for seeking treatment. I'm asking you to back up the accusations you made. That's a fair thing to ask you to do, and sidestepping into whining about how I'm oppressing your issues because I am asking for it is bullshit.

I was under the impression that he passed along the administration to the server to someone else, I guess he kept the keys to the server after all.

I feel silly even asking this, but you didn't by any chance "push" Hamid into federating when he just wanted it to be a non federated server, did you?

You know what, forget I asked. I feel like I already know the answer to that question and toomanypancakes is just riding their own little dialectical go-kart, for their own ineffable reasons.