The someones in question, namely the wait staff, are often the biggest defenders of tipping culture in my experience. They don't WANT a higher base wage to happen. Without tipping they'd make less money and the career wouldn't be viable for adults. Boo hooo. *in their words, not mine. I guess I had to clarify.

So when it comes to asshole accusations...eh. That's your opinion. Nobody made them choose that career. You're being protectionist and I'd reject that shaming attempt if I didn't still tip a little.

I didn't seek out being a cop, a priest, a door knocking scammer either. I think tipping is gross and I'd rather be homeless than prey on people and then defend my preying on people because it pays the bills. I lived a decade impoverished. Even at my most desperate I never turned to predatory careers. It's a choice.

I tip a flat 5 bux. Not a percentage. For someone I interact with for 10 minutes I think it's reasonable. I hope they split it with the cook staff. If it's acceptable for a delivery driver who does work harder and has higher vehicle maintenance demands, then it's fine in a restaurant too.