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Toxic Masculinity
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this post was submitted on 10 Jun 2025
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That's not nuance, that's literally the toxic masculinity the post is talking about.
Anyone can be friends. Assuming anything less is unnecessarily divisive.
The assumption the boyfriend is making - the same assumption you're making - is just mysogyny.
In my experience it's easy to tell when a guy is only being friendly with a girl because he wants to fuck her and when he's genuinely bring her friend.
It's not misogyny to think other men would try to fuck your girlfriend. Especially if she remains in contact with someone who is only her friend because he's trying to fuck her.
Even if you can be correct in a given individual assessment within the context of your own life, you made a broad, unconditional statement where you intrinsically assumed the guy you've never met is correct in his assumptions about multiple friendships you have no knowledge of.
It's not mysogyny to be wary of the intentions of other men. It's mysogyny to assume all intergender friendships are exclusively sexual. For all you know, the boyfriend in the OP is just deeply insecure.
Edit - besides, it really doesn't matter what other men "would try," unless you have reason to believe the person in question is dangerous and will act without consent. If you think she will cheat on you, that's an issue with your relationship, not her friendships with others.
Not all men, lol
Sounds to me like you live in circles with desperate incels. Time to upgrade your friends group.