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submitted 20 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) by DragonBallZinn@hexbear.net to c/self_improvement@hexbear.net

Hey c/self_improvement.

Right now I’m really hitting a bad part of my journey. I’m seriously doubting my reason to keep going. I put in all this work and I almost never see any reward for it. Can’t lose fat no matter how hard I work out. I’m totally unemployable and while I have a summer gig right now, I can’t live through another 9 months of unemployment and I know that’s what’s in my future because no employer wants to touch me with a ten foot pole.

Right now, I’m looking at taking some college courses. But what’s the point if I’m not top of my class? No employer would want to hire me if I’m not perfect in every conceivable way. I have nothing to offer the world that literally everyone else can’t. It’s like I am ontologically inferior to everyone.

EDIT: thank you so much for all these responses.

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[-] mrfugu@hexbear.net 5 points 19 hours ago

Ok a few things I’m just gonna list them out:

  1. I don’t have any good advice re: motivation. The best I’ve found for self improvement is to say “ok DragonBallZinn wants me to be happy so I gotta do it for him.” Probably not the healthiest but I find it works.
  2. Fuck losing fat. Fuck that whole concept. I’m constantly struggling with my self image and belly fat but it’s all just self-deprecating nonsense. How’s your heart? How do your muscles feel? Are you healthy? That’s what really matters. You know that BMI was invented by some crazy frenchman trying to describe the perfect white man right? It somehow got adopted by actual doctors but it’s not a real measurement of anything useful.
  3. Being top of your class means jack shit long term. I thought my life was over when my final average gpa was under 3.0 but no one gives a shit once you’ve been in the job for two years. The job market is fucked so you gotta try to make connections and apply to a stupid number of stupid jobs. And by “make connections” I mean go somewhere and meet people in real life and literally nothing past that. If someone knows you’re a personable non-asshole who wears deodorant that puts you over any faceless resume who’s just as qualified.

Conclusion: If you’re ontologically anything it’s ontologically blind to your worth. Don’t let the nonsense metrics of the capitalist hell society let you think you’re worthless.

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