Also even if it's the Ukraine war that doesn't mean it's on the Ukrainian side. Could be conscripted onto Russian side.

Its very dangerous in Russia for young people - only certain opinions are allowed. Better to avoid the topic all together than get into debates with people who won't understand the nature of living in an authoritarian regime. And in fairness it's probably not much freer on the Ukrainian side either - such is the nature of war even in a democracy.