I feel like this is one of those "make sure people are on the same page before you start running the rpg". I've had players react very badly to their characters being maimed and stuff (a fairly normal Dark Heresy event), but I've also had some players want a severe tacticool experience. And some people want cozy vibes with some dice rolling.

D&D does suffer from a lot of system/setting baggage as well as the expectation that the system works as well from level 1 to 20+.

I want to play shadowrun again, for all its flaws