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Have you tried just starting?
Non-adhd people are like "just tell yourself you're gonna do it for five minutes, then it's easy to start." No, the getting started at all is the hardest part. It doesn't matter if it feels like a huge task or one i could complete entirely in 30 seconds. The getting started at all is often the seemingly impossible part. Depending on the task, once i get started at all then i often can keep doing it for many hours.
Non-adhd people don't understand what "executive dysfunction" means. It's precisely the directing of my actions that's dysfunctional. Once I've started i often can keep going because then i no longer have to direct myself to do the task, in fact now i would have to direct myself to STOP doing the task, which is also executive function.
That all-too familiar feeling where even when I think something could be a quick 5-minute task, I decide there will be more convenient times for me to do it later and keep pushing it off.
That's how "order a new electric toothbrush" takes 1 month to complete. Wake up, brush teeth, remember the motor on this thing sucks now, decide I'll order a new one when I sit down after breakfast. Finish breakfast, worried about being late for work, decide I'll do it when I get to work. Get to work, get ambushed by coworkers and tasks, decide to do it during break. Break rolls around, feel like the last thing I want to do is waste limited free time on something as menial as ordering a toothbrush, decide to do it when I get home. Get home, collapse in a tired heap, decide we'll try again tomorrow. Repeat.
Dishes. Fucking dishes.
"Oh, the dishwasher is clean and there's only two plates in the sink. I'll get to it tonight"
2 days later, after dishes have piled up and the dishwasher is still full of clean dishes
"....Fuck."
wave of motivation: unload dishwasher, load dirty dishes, start dishwasher, handwash things that shouldn't go in the dishwasher, feel good afterwards
later that day
"Oh, the dishwasher is clean and there's only two plates in the sink. I'll get to it tonight"
Rinse and repeat ad-nauseam.
This is me, but with the laundry. "Where are all my pants? Oooh yeah, they're still in the dryer. I gotta empty it, but I have to get ready for work now. I'll just take out the pants I need and get to the rest later."
You're singing my song. feelsbadman.jpg
Five minutes later, the task is completely forgotten. But don't worry, I'll remember it - when I'm driving to work the next day and won't be back home until 9 hours later (at which point I'll have completely forgotten it again.)
This should be the first thing we say when explaining ADHD
This should be featured in the sidebar of this community
I honestly don’t know if it’s ADHD or something else; my ability to start a task is directly inversely proportional to how much external pressure and visibility is associated with it.
I'll get right on that after I've started