I forsee me spell checking my memes in the future

I'm on 20mg slow-release Methylphenidate a day (taken in the mornings) and haven't had any alcohol since I started taking meds last fall. And even before that I could count on one hand the times I'd drink alcohol in a year.

But I used to be a big whisk(e)y afficionado and have started to really crave a glass of my favourite single malt scotch.

I asked my doctor if I could drink a little bit of alcohol in the evening every once in a blue moon and he said yes, but I'm still hesitant. Does anyone here have any experience in this regard?

I discovered I had ADHD about 18 months ago and since then I've noticed my personality has changed quite a bit. Just knowing the reason why the world always seemed such a confusing place and realising how much masking I did all my life, I've noticed the pendulum seems to be swinging in the other way now. I'm never masking again and if that means I seem strange to neurotypicals then so be it.

Have any of you who also discovered your neurospicyness in the last few years experienced anything like this as well? I'm just done pretending and I know it's probably making me more of a challenge to be around.

I wonder if this is normal and if the pendulum will swing back eventually to a more harmonious place.

Also when did it become ok for dentists to tell you off for not brushing up to their standards. I just noticed how they routinely use shaming as a form of control.

Hi community,

As the title suggests, I am struggling to stay functional in this weather. The air con makes the room feel weird and sweaty, I impulse purchased an oodie to stay warm and yet can't find a decent way to stay functional and get out of my bed unless I am expected to report to work.

Any tips/ideas? Thanks in advance.

PS: I take Ritalin LA (30 mg) and Escitalopram (10 mg)

This comic is me

Sorry for the random post, but today I(22) took Elvanse for the first time. Only 20mg (I‘m 60kg) and still my head feels quiet and able, the mental barriers to starting tasks are almost gone and I can switch my attention and thoughts around to what I want. Is this even possible on that dose?

Did anyone experience similar things on their first try? Somehow I‘m still doubting if the effects are real or just the novelty placebo.

But they are real OMG, I‘m not in sensory overwhelm and actually get things done, I feel like I turned on the cheat menu in a video game!

If you can relate, please let me know bc I am so used to doubting my reasoning that I would really appreciate to know if someone had similar experiences!

Thanks!

I'm turning 27 tomorrow, so this is kind of like a birthday present. It's definitely a good feeling, because it means I haven't been lying to myself for months, which I was afraid of.

I'd been trying hard not to panic all day, just because I knew I'd be getting the call this afternoon. I'm fortunate to be off work, so I'm stoned with my cat in front of the AC. My doctor started off by describing her appraisal of my condition, and I started crying. I stopped her part way through to tell her how much of a relief it was to hear her express back to me, what I had been terrified, for two weeks, that I hadn't explained adequately.

It was actually kind of funny, hearing her tell me all these things like they were news. But it's official. I may have high logical and reasoning ability, but when presented with large amounts of information, or when having to absorb it over long periods of time, I become inattentive. I have ADHD.

That matches up with my two and a half years of college. With my grades in high school, that fell off over the last couple years. With the constant weight of weariness I feel clocking in at work each day.

As a 27 year old man, with a gorgeous fiance, a high skill job, and a great group of friends (who will definitely managed to schedule another D&D session someday), it's hard for me to feel like there's anything wrong with me. I think, getting officially diagnosed just makes me believe, even more strongly, that humanity can only improve by learning about each other's differences. I'm glad that a space like this exists, on a free, open platform, for people like us to share our experiences.

I'd love to hear how anyone else felt about their diagnosis. I'd also love any tips from my elders (or youngers), on what to do next! Sounds like my PCP can prescribe me Adderall now, so that's a pretty cool unlock. What I'm most unsure about is getting a therapist. Has anyone tried remote therapy? I'm generally a recluse, so that's probably the option I'd favor if there are good options out there.

Thank you!

My wife and I (I'm also female) met on a dating site. I had "doesn't have kids and doesn't want any" selected for the "kids info section" on my profile. We fell madly in love and got married a year later.

Before meeting her I had always said I didn't want kids. Friends kept telling me I'd change my mind but I was certain I wouldn't. During our engagement I realised my wife would like to have kids and I started coming round to the idea. Raising a child together with someone who love definitely has a very romantic appeal to it. Eventually I agree to having children together.

Fast forward several years. Our relationship starts experiencing more and more difficulties, mostly due to my as-of-yet undiagnosed adhd. My wife also has to deal with health issues that heavily impact her career path. At one point she tells me she thinks she'd rather nor have children after all and instead just focus on getting ahead in her training and career. I realise her telling me this makes me feel relieved.

Fast forward to last summer. Our relationship is doing pretty badly and I'm finally diagnosed with adhd after putting off getting help for almost a year. Not because I didn't want to but, you know, life is busy, weeks go by and suddenly a whole year has passed.

Our relationship at this point is barely hanging by a thread. We talk about breaking up, that maybe we just don't fit together because of our individual needs and personal baggage and trauma. But as I start medication and therapy and slowly find my tools to cope with adhd things start getting better and we feel happy in our relationship again.

At some point my wife starts talking about having children again. I ask her what about her telling me she didn't want any after all and she tells me that she later realised that this wasn't quite true, it just seemed "the smarter choice" but that she would actually very much like to have a kid.

Now, I really like children and am very good with them. The reason I never wanted any was that I didn't want this kind of responsibility. I came around to the idea with my wife and I can see the attraction the idea has but I also realise that I myself don't have any desire to have kids, from within myself. I was more like my wife wanted them and I didn't feel as strongly opposed anymore to the point where I started to imagine it as a beautiful idea. But also that when she told me she didn't want to have kids, that this would still be the option I think I'd prefer.

I think I'm slowly starting to cope better with my adhd but it's still a struggle just to maintain a "normal adult" level of coping with day-to-day stuff. I can't imagine adding the additional load of raising a child to this. I know kids can be great but even parents who wanted to have kids and are happy tell you that it's super exhausting and requires a lot of planning and logistics. I don't think I want that, I feel like regular adult life is already exhausting enough for me.

Two weeks ago my wife asked me if I was sure I didn't want to have kids. We couldn't continue the talk at that moment and are in the middle of a few extremely stressful weeks but I like, once they are over, we need to have a talk. I brought up my concern about adhd and she said that I was constantly getting better and that one year from now things that are still a struggle for me now probably won't be a struggle anymore. That's probably true but when that happens I'll be happy as it is and don't want to add additional stress to my life by having a kid.

Many of our friends have recently had kids and I think this is also affecting my wife. I feel bad about agreeing to have kids a few years ago and now realising I don't think I want to have them after all. I can imagine having kids to be a beautiful experience but I think I just don't want to have any after all, I think the stress and exhaustion would break me :(

When I was younger and got an ADHD diagnosis they kept trying to sit me in the front of the room so that I could pay attention better. It always made everything so much worse and as a child I could never articulate why. Turns out some things that were going on at home had already given me mild PTSD by the time I entered middle school. What was actually most distracting to me was the feeling of people behind me and not being able to see the door. When I was in college and could pick my own seating arrangements sitting in the back of the room away from everyone and where I could see the door made a huuuge difference.

Was just reflecting on this and wanted to share.

Wondering if this is common with ADHD. maybe not only physical media but just things in general. I for one am not a fan that everything is digital and nonexistent so make it a point to own media I care about on physical copies.

Starting ADHD evaluation for the second time next week. I am really stressed out because this is basically my last shot. I am pretty confident that I have ADHD, but since I also have bipolar, they are just assuming that whatever symptom I am experiencing must be that.

I've been through public healthcare where they discharged me after the intake conversation, because they regard me as too high functioning (did good in school and have a job) and they don't have the capacity. So no help there unless I run my life into the ground. Got declined by my health insurance because they have a clause in fine print saying they don't cover ADHD. So now I am paying out of pocket, blasting most of my savings. The price tag is around $2700. If they discharge me because they think I don't have it, it will "only" be $1900 though.

So now I am stressed out, worried I am just throwing my money out the window. And that I am just wrong. If this doesn't pan out, I don't know what I'll do.

Not really looking for any advice (but they are welcome), just wanted to vent a little.

Here are a few of mine.

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• On Windows 10, you can create a second, third, or more desktops. I use one of these as my task focused desktop to get stuff done. It's great for me because only the web browser and tabs that I open in it will be shown. This helps a lot to keep me from seeing another browser instance and having the urge to switch back.

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• I use an Android and realized just this year that I could pause apps. To do this, hold your finger on the app for 2 seconds. A menu will appear, and the hourglass looking thing is tapped to pause the app. This is great for me when I don't want to get pinged with a bunch of stuff in a set period of time. It also saves battery energy as the app is either no longer running in the background or is running on a low amount of energy. Then when you're ready to use a paused app, hold your finger on the app for 2 seconds, and a new menu will show to unpause or cancel.

Hey! just recently went to my psycologist, and i found alot of new things with me! ofc i had some things in background why it was so hard in school and social life and other things. but i found out that i was diagnosed with auditory memeory issue when i was 4 (and my parents never said anything to me when i was older). but that diagnose can also be a misdiagnose off add, which the test was not for. so ye, found out alot of my history and my current problems last couple of months, and got diagnosed with add well got kicked out of uni last year, had no motivation at all, and it was pain reading. so after some months, i went to psycologist about depression and fucos issue, and ye, pretty sure i have ADD with some languge diffuclitys, but not auditory memeoryproblem. wanted to killmyself so many times, and motivation for anything was just ass. and i guess it will take some time to fix it. do you have any tips what helped you, and how you find passion in school or job? :) thank you!

Hi Lemmy!

Loop Earplugs are too expensive. Does anyone have cheaper recommendations?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/30816063

i cant wrap my head around it

So I've tried both, and they both work, but with different effects. The dex is the only thing that helps with executive function, that kick start to actually initiate tasks. But Ritalin is more effective in muting the mental noise which helps me stay focused longer. It also helps me regulate my emotions much better. I have young kids and life gets hectic, so ritalin helps be keep my cool in this moments. But I'm reluctant to give up the Dex (what I'm currently prescribed) because I need it most work days to get things moving.

I wonder if anyone has the same experience and whether they've managed to work with their prescriber to use both on lower doses?

Examples:

• Kid's electronic toy that we loved is broken. Instead of throwing it away, I put it in a box because "surely, I'll find the time to fix it"
• After moving, valuables are "temporarily" in plastic bags, because I'll buy & assemble a showcase soon enough.

None of these things ever happen. I make the planning as if I did not an attention disorder. Although I had it all my life.

Now that I'm in treatment, I would have thought that my brain works in a way I'd need to get used to. But no, it just works in the way I always assumed when I made a plan.

It's just so strange that the planning seems to assume an intact prefrontal cortex, rather than adjusting to how it actually works.

A friend recently called my adhd a disease and it got me extremely angry and hurt. They didn't have bad intentions, I don't think they think that I need to be "cured" but it probably came from a more ignorant perspective.

But how do you feel about it? How would you handle that situation?

To me calling it a disease implies that my neurodivergence is wrong, that I should seek some sort of cure, which I find stupid and mostly laughable, but I guess hearing it from them hit some nerve and it felt like a personal attack. As if they were saying that as long as I have adhd I am not okay and that my struggles are my fault for not seeking a cure.

Just somehow it instantly made me so hurt and angry and I couldn't help but feel insulted and small.

I’d like to know what anyone is using that they really think is helping them that isn’t taking traditional prescription medication for ADHD. Please make sure whatever it is can be found “over the counter” or readily available commercially. Please keep it to simple items that are easily found separately - i.e. a B vitamin of B6, 12 and vitamin C along with Magnesium glycinate or something. If you notice it helping in a specific area, please say what it is.

I have to throw in a couple caveats, just to make sure we can get a decent picture of what is actually helping, so…

• Please nothing illicit or illegal.

• Please no blends or other proprietary herbal combinations. If a blend helps you, great…but we don’t know what is in the blend that is helping, and someone may not have access to that product where they live.

• Please be specific, like making sure to differentiate between magnesium glycinate and magnesium L-threonate.

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Edit: “votes” so far:

1 - Creatine monohydrate - short term memory

2 - Lion’s mane (a fungus) - brain fog

2 - Omega 3, 6, and 9 - brain fog

1 - exercise. Not really a supplement, but it’s a great idea for overall health.

1 - keto diet - brain fog

2 - N-Acetyl-cystein (NAC) - anxiety/hyperactivity

2 - magnesium glycinate - ?

1 - Magnesium carbonate

Stimulants:

2 - Coffee

1 - caffeine (via energy drink)

1 - Guarana

1 - Green tea (caffeine and L-Theanine)

cross-posted from: https://sub.wetshaving.social/post/2498731

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