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[-] hddsx@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 days ago

Hi, so I'm the one that reported you to piefed.social.

Here's why:

  1. How you percieve "bro" to be used is inconsistent with how it is colloquially used.
  2. I saw a post about it, and couldn't believe it. Surely, there was more offensive content that I did not see. So I made a comment with "bro" in it, and you messaged me and then threatened a ban.
  3. Threatening someone with a ban who uses a word that is not offensive colloquial language because you personally find it offensive is abuse of power.

That's it. That's the whole explanation.

Here's the thing. Just because YOU have personally never used bro in a genuinely positive way doesn't mean it hasn't. I have personally used it positively. I was there for my no familial relation bro at his wedding. Bro had a small wedding with only a best man. So I jumped in to help out with what was essentially groosmen duty because I'm there for my bro.

Secondly, while bro comes from a gendered word "brother", language is constantly evolving. Many people use it as a gender-neutral term for friends they wouldn't have sex with. Others use it as a mark of exasperation. Neither use of which is toxic, baked with malice, or toxic.

The problem really is your banning of the word "bro" because you're a moderator. It's one thing if you get personally offended by the word "bro" and ask people not to use it with you. That's fine, and I respect that view. It's another thing altogether to wield your mod powers and police everyone from using it.

You should have a really big think about it, because you destroyed the community you tried so hard to cultivate by projecting your negative view of "bro" onto others. You're still here talking about other people being the problem, yet you excluded people who had no malicious or toxic intent from joining your "inclusive" community.

Finally, if you have never once heard "bro" used in genuinely positive way, it sounds like you need better bro-models. Some bros are toxic, some bros aren't. You just haven't found the right bros yet.

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