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What's your test for people?
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Just wanted to put in a counter for what a lot of people are saying in here, if you're looking for a "perfect-clone friend" right out the gate then prepare to be lonely as your tests fail... not because they're horrible people, but because they're a different person with different experiences.
The person litters (like @tiramichu@sh.itjust.works suggested)? Probably see's their entire family litter constantly and never gets comments or maybe even once got reprimanded for saying not to litter to an elder. Just ask them not to when they're in your vehicle, take into account their reaction and maybe have a conversation about it? (personal experience, just let me friend know it was lame and he stopped doing it. But now his vehicle is a roaming trashcan so I guess take what you can get)
You can be friends with people who are different or were raised differently than you, it's actually super beneficial! Now if it's a constant argument or it's turned into a negative experience every time and communication isn't working... it might be useful to move on for everyone's sake at that point.
I'm getting a mixed message here; are you saying people should be friends with people who litter, and politely encourage them to improve their behavior? Or that they should walk away from people that litter? Not trying to antagonize, I'm just not clear what the central theme of your comment is
Make friends first without requirements, communicate if an action of theirs disturbs you or makes you feel some kind of way. Learn who they are and why they do things before passing judgement. Let them know your experience. From there, evaluate what kind of relationship you want with the person going forward. But, communicate! the reason why. Allow the ability for people to surprise you and change if they care about your feelings (including allowing yourself to change if they present good arguments).
People have friends or acquaintances for different reasons and have different philosophies over what's important in those relationships, mileage may vary.
cool lol thanks
just fyi you keep repeating this pattern: "here's a specific thing you should enjoy. Later, here's a general rule which will often invalidate the previous statement" and it's just kind of hard to follow. but. thanks for the response
It helps if you're not vague when asking for clarification and quote what the issue is directly, the made-up quote doesn't really help if you wish to get an actual helpful response.
My response: Make friends first without requirements
response: Learn who they are and why they do things before passing judgement. From there, evaluate what kind of relationship you want with the person going forward (is this a co-worker? Someone from a friend group? What kind of relationship is required to move forward)
You can make friends...then unmake if necessary. If that's your confusion.
or we can make friends however we want, lol, it's weird that you think you're our life coach. let people pick friends however they want buddy, there's no need to tell everyone else how to live
You ok there bud? First day on the internet and you just needed to talk to someone?
This is a perfect example btw, I didn't just dismiss you because of your confusion. But now since you've just been wasting time for clarification you never actually cared about (only to then try to insult in the lamest way possible online), and your other really horrible posts and comments I can easily move on and not care about this interaction at all!
No I did, and I'm glad. You've broken two sidebar rules of my instance and I have cause to ban you now. My users are better off without this toxic, rude behavior and we won't need any more of it from you.
Have a day.