If you're making vows at a wedding ceremony that you feel you can just nope out on if shit hits the fan, why are you getting married? What is the point?

I agree. The wedding shouldn't change how you feel about the other person because you should already be 100% dedicated if you're thinking of getting married

And get married at 23, plan life of kids and whatever. Car accident a year later and she/he is a quadruped. What you're describing isnt love, or devetion, it's indentured servitude. If you truly love the other person you'd want them to leave.

But it's why I never plan on being married who the fucks knows what will happen tomorrow, let alone a decade down the road.

Im 59, my parter (f 56) and I have had that discussion, she insists she'll stay and take care of me if it happened and I said that will make me even more miserable and more depressed and I'd want her to leave.

I can't even wrap my head around how selfish and self absorned you'd have to be to insists someone take care of you for decades of you were bedridden or even house bound etc