Did your mom downvote you lol?

Brutal

I feel bad for you man. Hope you're living your best life now

Jaysus Christ, I laughed with respect. Hope you’re doing well my man.

"today we will talk about my ex-wife.."

"NOT AGAIN PROFESSOR"

"IT'S FOR STUDIES!!!"

Do not cross teachers or songwriters, you will inspire future works.

So based

Serious illnesses can be horrifying to watch someone go through and poverty routinely seperates loved ones.

Standing by someone in a terrible - perhaps terminal - condition is absolutely an incredible challenge and shouldn't be dismissed as anything less than that.

A big reason you want to stand by your partner in perilous circumstances is because you want them to be there for you. And another big reason is because you might not get any more moments together than this, so make them last.

In a place like America, where sick days are a luxury and health care can still bankrupt you, being at someone's bedside is a cross to bare. Be happy when you're not carrying it. Don't be so quick to judge when someone else can't.

In a scenario like this, I don't know that there's fault to be had.

Big picture (my opinion as a 53yo) 23 is still young and it's not uncommon for people and their priorities to change as they find direction in life. Even if you remained healthy, there's other growing and changes occurring that may have eventually lead to the end of the relationship - it's the risk we take when we make ourselves vulnerable to someone.

Is it unfortunate? Yes. Sad? Absolutely. Depressing and entirely unfair? No question. But you both lost the future you were hoping to have together. Wishing you better to come.

I try to go around life believing that nobody owes me anything in any way shape or form. Thus, I should be thankful for anything that I have.

She gave you a year, then she decided to leave. Technically, that makes it her fault. But exactly what does determining this accomplish for anyone or anything? Life will just randomly kick the shit out of you and tear you a new one. We all have to adapt and survive and negotiate. If that means leaving an optional strenuous situation, then that's what has to happen. It's life.

My problem isn't necessarily with her leaving. Assuming she left with tact. Which I doubt.

But the audacity to leave someone and then feel entitled to thier time when it suits you, is insane.

What happens if he gets sick again, will she again leave? Will she come back when he's better? How many times is she entitled to this cycle?

This person needs therapy, she is outrageously selfish.

Honestly this is the best advice. It doesn't have the highest chance of success, but it's the only path that could really result in healing and reconnection. Some people do dumb things when confronted with mortality or serious illness, especially if they're young and inexperienced. If she could be honest and sincere it would demonstrate awareness and potentially growth.

And let us know how it goes!