Does it sound like my ex really wants to be friends? (thelemmy.club)

submitted 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago) by nonBInary@thelemmy.club to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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you can't say for sure, obviously, but what does it sound like? i'm very autistic and cannot tell.

i dated this lady and she broke up with me after finding out she was aromantic-asexual or on the spectrum of that. furthermore, she gives mixed signals, where she will sometimes give me stuff or be nice to me, but other times she will completely ignore me and stuff, or move away from me to sit by her friends.

she then said she didn't really "know me" and since we weren't best friends who connected right away, that it wasn't going to work.

my mom said being best friends right away was too soon, though, which i agree with, and that she was probably trying to be polite but not actually friends.

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[-] lunatique@lemmy.ml 8 points 11 hours ago

She probably has mixed feelings and still has some bond with you but is trying to make herself not want to talk to you since you too have two different dating goals

this post was submitted on 11 Oct 2025

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