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Is 16 and 19 really that bad?
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this post was submitted on 11 Oct 2025
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First off: if, then he wouldn't be a pedophile but a hebephile. Small, but important difference.
Second: there are the laws. If you're breaking laws, it could quickly become a problem (obviously).
But finally, what you were actually getting to: it really depends. There are plenty of age cases that are unacceptable no matter what (e.g. if he were 25 instead of 19, for instance). People mature differently. I've met people who were 16 where you could think they were 20, and vice-versa. If one is much more mature than the other, than you have a power imbalance, and that's the problem. And that can happen with two people of the same age, as well (although it's less likely).
So, no, 16 and 19 isn't necessarily wrong, per se. The question is: is the relationship in question problematic?