Is 16 and 19 really that bad? (lemmings.world)

submitted 17 hours ago by blackwitch@lemmings.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So, my good friend (18m) had a falling out with his ex (19m) because the ex bullied him and also because he is apparently dating a 16f, so my friend thinks he is a pedophile for obvious reasons (adult + minor).

I can see why this would be considered bad but also, when I turn 16, my girlfriend will be 19 too, as I am currently a young sophomore who is about 3 years younger than her girlfriend, a senior.

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[-] doomsdayrs@lemmy.ml 6 points 7 hours ago

*age divided by two plus seven, round up with acknowledgments to experience gaps / power dynamics"/

"19 / 2 = 9.5 + 7 = 16.5" rounded is a plain seventeen.

His ex is in the wrong. Not even taking into account the experience gap between the two / power dynamics.

While I don't know your specifics kid, I recommend taking some time to write down a few things:

What you're capable of versus what your older girlfriend is capable of.
What are you able to provide versys what your older girlfriend is able to provide.
What you give verus what you get.

The final advice is be careful of those older than you until you're at least done with college.

this post was submitted on 11 Oct 2025

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