Is 16 and 19 really that bad? (lemmings.world)

submitted 17 hours ago by blackwitch@lemmings.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So, my good friend (18m) had a falling out with his ex (19m) because the ex bullied him and also because he is apparently dating a 16f, so my friend thinks he is a pedophile for obvious reasons (adult + minor).

I can see why this would be considered bad but also, when I turn 16, my girlfriend will be 19 too, as I am currently a young sophomore who is about 3 years younger than her girlfriend, a senior.

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[-] apotheotic@beehaw.org 4 points 6 hours ago

A 10 year age gap is the same numerically at age 40-50 as it is at age 10-20 but they are clearly vastly different. There's an implicit power imbalance.

[-] lunatique@lemmy.ml 1 points 5 hours ago

So you give a whole new example. Do you want to compare an one hundred year gap now? They are different things. You just gave a more extreme example. 4 years is not much and doesn't matter

[-] apotheotic@beehaw.org 2 points 1 hour ago

I gave a more extreme example to demonstrate that your "they are the same numerically" idea is flawed

[-] Fredthefishlord@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 4 hours ago

It's the same numerically, like you said.

this post was submitted on 11 Oct 2025

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