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Condoms. Get a surgery and have the little guy fixed. Can’t get anyone pregnant that way. Be careful who you sleep with. Make sure both people get tested before doing the deed. No need for the condom at that point.
Unless someone can provide another reason to get a condom. I’m happy to be corrected.
Not one for spontaneity, eh? 😄
"I've had a great night, what do you say we keep this night going?"
"Sure, swab yourself here, here, and here and spit in this tube, and in a couple days, if all goes well, I will be so down for that!"
I got a vasectomy when I was already in for other surgery, but condoms were a mild annoyance with a more than acceptable tradeoff. They're ready to go whenever, it's a no-go for some if you won't use one, and it's as much for my own protection as it is for the other person. I wouldn't necessarily expect someone to take my word on it that I got it done right off the bat either.
If you're out dating, I think it's just respectful to have them available. Different people have different comfort levels, so one should come prepared to accommodate.
The latex free ones aren't a bad idea either if you need to keep some on hand. My partner has an allergy so I couldn't use regular ones. They were more expensive, but I actually thought they were better, and it was still a low price to pay, considering what I got in return. She carried her own, but after we continued going out I wasn't going to make her keep paying for them every time.
If you are done having children or don't want any. Vasectomies aren't always reversible.
That is always good advice to give. I do appreciate you saying it. I have no interest in having kids though.
Yeah it's a great option for people who don't want children. I hear it isn't easy for childfree women though. They get refused a lot because "what if you change your mind?!"
Don't you have to wait 30+ days between tests to do the deed and avoid STDs?
They have pills now that will keep you "ready" for 30+ days
STDs.
Unplanned sex, new relationships, sometimes partners cheat.
You all should know that there's an easy way to make a condom feel much better: put a drop of lubricant (condom-safe, of course) inside the reservoir tip before putting the condom on. I've also heard that doing this makes it less likely to tear too, which makes sense.