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this post was submitted on 08 Nov 2025
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Actively look to "give glory" or kudos to people around you.
On a practical level, be it an opposing force opponent, or even someone on your own squad - like a family member - looking to give glory encourages me to engage with my environment on a real level when I'm drifting off or getting lost. I'm trying to connect with the intentions of others while still trying to achieve my own. These don't have to be lose-lose situations, and they shouldn't be either.
If I can compliment someone on a tactic or a response committed under stress, I'm trying to say I see the other person. I'm also saying honestly that the action was valid, and others can understand my position without guessing. In a world where some feel they have to live by deception or seek glory for themselves exclusively, simply validating someone else gives strength and encourages others to tough out their positions in the face of toxicity.
You're also forcing a change of perspective, and refraining from dwelling on the faults of others or yourself.
Even if the kudos goes to the opposition, I'd rather compliment someone I believe I can work with, and build mutual respect.