What do you simply not mention to people? (kbin.melroy.org)

submitted 2 months ago by Harkronis@kbin.melroy.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

39 comments fedilink hide all child comments

Whenever you do good indirect deeds for someone. Mainly because some people don't expect or normally wouldn't have wanted things to be done in certain ways because it could get them in more shit than they were in the beginning. But sometimes doing things for the good on their behalf is a benefit.

I just wouldn't mention it to them because it could sometimes create an issue where you may sometimes be faulted or may get into an argument about the morals of having done such thing. So by not mentioning it, it spares you from having to deal with that. I think it also has a net benefit because it doesn't make you look like you do good things for PR reasons.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments

[-] balsoft@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

At the point of first contact IRL, I avoid mentioning anything even vaguely inflammatory: that I'm an immigrant (that one is hard to hide because my pronunciation of the local language is still quite terrible), vegan, atheist, hold anarchist, marxist, and generally anti-capitalist views. If the relationship lasts longer than just a single contact, as I build up trust and goodwill I slowly start seeping out that info, usually in the order that I listed it in.

this post was submitted on 13 Nov 2025

18 points (100.0% liked)

Asklemmy

52682 readers

488 users here now

A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions

Search asklemmy 🔍

If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!

Open-ended question
Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
An actual topic of discussion

Looking for support?

Looking for a community?

Lemmyverse: community search
sub.rehab: maps old subreddits to fediverse options, marks official as such
!lemmy411@lemmy.ca: a community for finding communities

~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_A@discuss.tchncs.de~

founded 6 years ago

MODERATORS