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Because women are socialized (and possibly genetically predisposed) to be better at building community and having many close relationships, often more physically intimate as well (touching, hugs etc). So men are less equipped to live alone.
It's not biological. It's social learning.
Men have just as much ability to form social bonds.
Men have the same amount of emotions. Same emotional responses.
There is a ton of research on this.
It's our society and gender roles that keep men from having cooperative friendships.
They are told as children they have to one up each other and never cooperate. Never show sadness to other boys/men.
But they still have those feelings. And hiding them actually just creates mental health problems and behavior problems.
I don't know about many, but I can tell you I went ten miles out of my way today to see a friend I haven't seen in a hot minute and get a hug.
Basically men are not equipped for drama
Aside from your dismissive comment. Perhaps the reason todays men are not equipped, is because of "traditional" or post war roles conditioned against emotional relationships with peers.