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Finding people who vibe with you is so hard (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 2 weeks ago by tfowinder@sh.itjust.works to c/showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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So I moved back to my city after 7 years where my family lives.

It's been 2 years but I never really enjoyed people here. Mostly people I met were from my previous circles, family, school friends and their partners.

I always thought something was off and maybe over time I will figure things out but it was just not happening.

Yesterday I went to dinner with my partners friends and damn it was whole different vibe. As if it's a different culture. I really enjoyed talking and was genuinely interested in next meeting.

Resparked my joy in meeting people and I guess I was with wrong people and there are people who are out there who vibe match with me but it's so hard to find them.

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[-] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 0 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

that's not how sex works though. people dont' want to be friends with people they want to fuck, and they dont' want to fuck people they are friends with.

and a romantic relationship requires the desire to fuck. so that's why people focus on that first and foremost.

[-] SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

Many people marry for different reasons. To each their own. In my eyes, I married for my forever partner. Beauty fades and I want more than a bang. I want someone who's brain will be my partner more than their body.

The "make friends first" method works for me for this. Yes I want to have sex but I don't want my intimacy to be wasted.

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