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this post was submitted on 19 Jan 2026
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If he were going to physically harm you or your family in any way, he wouldn't be harassing you on the phone. He's legit just trying to scare you.
The best approach here is to "grey rock" him, which in this case just means not answering. You said you don't use the home phone so just disconnect whatever device. You said your wife has blocked him so that's sorted. Close your fb account or don't log in or whatever.
Call the police and make an actual report to get an actual report number. Here any kind of threat made over a "wire service" is a crime. They may not investigate but that's not the point, in the infinitessimal chance the guy escalates, you want some history.
Refresh home security without going nuts. Maybe a ~~ring~~ door camera, make sure window locks are installed.
Then just go about your life, but maybe avoid throw down arguments on fb.
Edit: don't buy a ring camera.
Please do not buy Ring cameras, Amazons vast surveillance network is a privacy nightmare and is also regularly accessed by ICE and other law enforcement.
Eufy cameras can be used with a home base and stay offline, recording to the SD card in the base. Or if you're into it, there are many self hosting options that give you much more control and options.
Eufy doesn't have a good track record for keeping things local or secure, despite claiming they are, btw. Source
That's good to know, thanks