It's extremely disheartening. I was reading an article that referenced this article https://www.military.com/video/operations-and-strategy/vietnam-war/ace-of-spades-in-vietnam-war/2838824484001 (CW, extreme desecration/disrespect of the dead in the video there) and thinking of our conversation here (source article found here: https://news.abolish.capital/post/25145)

Eta: I have worked, in my lifetime, often voluntarily, with mentally and physically disabled. I have watched family members go off for drinks, sex, drugs, or sit in the same room glued to games, Facebook, TV to ignore them to completely shirk as much responsibility as possible to whomever will assume it for pity and mercy of the ailing family member and even their pets.