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A coworker who was the reason why I was moved to another department (she is friends with the manager) changed departments herself and now I sometimes have to work with her.

First time she saw me at her new position she greeted me as nothing happened, as she wasn’t the reason why I was moved laterally. I replied with a non effusive hi.

I don’t engage in non job related conversations with her, if I have to work with her I just ask her in a neutral voice where is what I need and proceed to do my job. Otherwise I avoid her because I don’t trust her. I don't have to work with her whole shifts or every day, which is good.

The incident I mentioned on my first paragraph happened 2 years ago and I still remember it enough not to like that person. I don’t know if more mature folks would have already forgotten about it but I cannot. Am I holding an unhealthy grudge? I mean I’m happy if I don’t have to see her.

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[-] Bane_Killgrind@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 1 day ago

If it's about what they did, unless it was premeditated and personally directed at you, yeah the grudge is unhealthy

If it's about the way they do what they do, nah you want to avoid their bullshit, it's not really a grudge

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