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Trying to replace my childhood hug vest.
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Do you suppose a corset might have the same effect? I've heard several femme friends who do theater or cosplays complaining about how extra-tight and constraining lots of corsets are.
That is exactly the suggestion I didn't want to hear. I came here and posted this to try to refuse to appease the part of me that's currently hyperfixated on the Victorian era. If I solve the compression and pressure problem by modern means, then I don't have the stories from neurodivergent women who do historical reenactment and love their stays taunting me.
(I need the deep pressure that vest gave, not the constricting effect from the more common compression vests, anyway.)
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Have you tried looking at life preserver vests? Might be able to get the deep pressure without the constriction with the right model. A bit bulky though.
I don't think that will solve the deep pressure, but I know it works for compression without feeling constrained in a bad way, which is a delicate balancing act. Honestly, it's probably one reason why I really like going to the beach or out on my dad's boat. In that context, it's good safety practice and won't interfere with intended exercise. My hug vest was also pretty obtrusive, that's not a concern. Another thing I had as a kid, before the hug vest, was just a zip up sleeveless top, a couple sizes too small, that my mum and I bought at the charity shop, then she let the armseyes out a bit, it didn't accomplish the pressure but it did a nice job on the compression. I suspect that recreating that is more possible than the deep pressure vest, but would also be considerably more work now, because everything around these types of problems is harder when you have female secondary sex characteristics.
There are multiple accessible ways for me to get pure compression. It's the deeper pressure effect I'm struggling to find.
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