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I've played drums "off and on" my entire life; but I keep getting stumped by 'fluency'. Any tips for motivation or fun lessons?

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The truth about mastering an instrument that no one wants to talk about is you need discipline. Motivation is unreliable and fleeting. You have to play whether you feel like it or not. It's also tedious. People think musicians just have it. Nope. They spend thousands of hours of repetition. It's not always fun. If you need it to be fun, you won't progress much. Another component, the better you get, the harder it is to improve. And the better you get, the longer it takes to improve. Ive taught music professionally my whole adult life. There is a myth of talent. Yes, some people are more naturally inclined than others. But often those are the hardest students to teach and they often improve the least. My students who soar are the ones who put their head down and do the work whether its fun or not.

[-] Sadbutdru@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 day ago

I suspect that's the truth about many things. We love a Hollywood narrative, but a lot of the time having some aptitude and then becoming obsessed is the way.

Indeed! Obsession is really the best description of it. Sarah Bareilles is an absolutely fantastic vocalist and pianist. Ive heard her talk about how she was the kid who never went outside to play with anyone because she was locking herself in her room playing and singing. Ya just gotta do the damn thing and do it a whole lot lol

[-] MrShankles@reddthat.com 2 points 1 day ago

Well shit, dreams crushed lol

In all seriousness, I appreciate the honest reply. I never intended to master any of my instruments, but always wanted to get over this "plateau" that I experience with all of them. It feels so good when you can finally play what you keep hearing in your head, even just a little bit. The closest I've gotten is with my guitar and ukulele, but similar to learning a new language, I lose fluency when I stop practicing

And I know it just comes down to practice, I guess sometimes you need someone to spell it out again. So thanks friend, I'll keep playing

And keep chasing that feeling! It's worth it to push through the tedium and frustration to achieve it. And the plateaus are real and are many lol but dont let that be a punishment. One of the best things about instruments and music in general is you are never finished. You always get to keep working at it. What a lucky and happy task to be tasked with.

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