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submitted 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) by ComradeMiao@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

America

  • Good pay
  • Bigger Houses
  • Free internet
  • Not an ethnostate
  • Nice/open people
  • Nice Nature
  • Public Respect (somewhat)
  • While the chances are low, shootings and police/ICE violence is not 0%
  • Universities, really good if not best (as an academic)

China

  • Clean, Major cities are clean but more polluted and trashed than other two
  • Ethnostate, forever an outsider
  • Increasingly difficult internet.
  • Nice/open people
  • Safe Society
  • Universities, pretty mid to bad at best unless its top

Japan

  • Cleanest
  • Ethnostate, forever an outsider, but not being stared at or random photos like in China
  • Free internet
  • Nice Nature
  • Public Trust
  • Public Respect
  • Safe Society
  • Universities, pretty mid to bad at best unless its top three

I feel forever trapped between these three countries with family, languages, culture, and religion. Very lost on which to pursue for my career. A recent trip to China has made me very much feel not China. I cannot stand the staring, photo taking making me feel like I'm a zoo animal, even more so for my child. But it is nice and pay can be decent. I also really like Chinese people and culture.

America has a lot of good, but I'm so sick of having to be stressed about its politics and the culture of violence. I do love the nature, individual freedom, and academic (tho the recent not being able to comment on Israel has been insane).

Japan is great on the surface but subtle racism, bad pay, and trump-copy cat prime minister is concerning. Committing to China or especially Japan over the US is fucking my family financially if we want to visit family in the other two countries.

Side note, I love being fluid between three cultures but not having a stable home in one place is somewhat exhausting.

Another random thought is America is actually so comfortable compared to China or Japan when it comes to being yourself.

Edit: why is everyone being pedantic or getting upset over one word rather than just answer lmao

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[-] stumu415@lemmy.zip 4 points 4 days ago

As a white European, who has lived in worked in the USA for a few years, worked with a fully 100% Japanese enterprise and now living in China for the last 7 years, I can wholeheartedly say China. I made myself swear I'll never work with Japanese again. It's the most frustrating experience. My project was supposed to take 9 months but ended up taking over 3 years due to indecisiveness from the Japanese. Plus the working hours are insane with the drinking afterwards. China is much better than Japan workwise. Also I don't know why you left nature out of the China list. Nature is amazing here. For me personally living here is great. The infrastructure with public transport and high speed railway is second to none. Plus the daily convenience because of the super apps like AliPay and Wechat. It's hard to explain to someone who hasn't been here. Luckily a lot more people are discovering China thanks to the visa free travel now for most countries - except the US of course. It's amazing to hear/see these tourists being shocked how good and normal life is in here because they get fed only negative propaganda back home. China is not North Korea.

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