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(I'm just trying to learn. No hidden mockery in this and this is no gotcha bs aimed at t women. I'm NOT transphobic. Just saw this in a debate and wanted to know other people's thoughts)

I just want to know:

  1. Is this factually correct?
  2. If it is, does it matter? Why or why not?
  3. How would you logically respond to this?
  4. How does this statement not contradict with Trans Women are Women
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[-] DoomSayer@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 days ago

All good points. Thank you for your answers. I will hold on to this exchange. And I already know it will help inform how I move forwards. I hope you understand from this that not all those who ask questions or who carry doubts are against the trans community. All the best.

[-] DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 days ago

If I assumed such malice I would be ducking and covering rather than engaging ๐Ÿ˜Š I appreciate the open mind!

I will tell you a neat tidbit. There's parts of the more common trans experience of gender not widely experienced by cis people. One of these is a deeper sense of connection and kinship with cis people of our gender. We look at them as "our people" in a way cis people generally don't think of other cis people. It's part of why peer rejection hurts so much... But it's also something beautiful once it's understood and if I believed in there being a design to life and all this then the function of the occasional gender optimist programmed to see the best in men while implicitly understanding the plight of women thrown in sounds like it would serve a decent purpose. It's my hope to spread optimism and help others to find new avenues of compassion. I really do hope the best for you my friend.

[-] DoomSayer@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 days ago

Preordainment or not, I believe you've fulfilled that role beautifully. Thank you for taking the time to respond to me.

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