Some questions for parents in the community (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 year ago by Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

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First off, I am still relatively new here, and I hope I don't offend anyone with any of these questions, but some things I've been wondering lately. And that I'm probably going to have to work through before too long.

Same sex/gender parents, do your children call both of you the same or different names?(mom/dad etc.)

Trans* parents, if you had children before you came out, did what they call you change? I've only been aware of one instance of this situation and the kids still called her dad.

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[-] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago

I feel you there... My parents have recently decorated the outside of the house with like 3 new pro-trump flags and it's disappointing as hell. Like at some point I may have to choose between being me and having them around, which sucks they're the grandparents my kids are most comfortable with and the only reason we get breaks occasionally.

Worse than my issues, I fear that one of them is possibly queer themselves, and if the grandparents make too big of a stink about it I'll have to put my foot down sooner. I can deal with shit coming at me to an extent, but I will not let it come at them, if I can find a way for them to not go through extra shit.

[-] WalrusDragonOnABike@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

The good thing is given my parents are queer, they're not really supportive of republicans. And given my mom is GNC, she's always been fine with us being GNC. But I think one of the main reasons I haven't said anything about my gender is because I don't want to deal with the "that's normal" kind of response that a lot of people with trans-in-denial parents get at this point.

[-] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago

I think I'm going to end up with that attitude on multiple things, unfortunately. 😓

Step 1 is probably coming out autistic, which I fully expect to be meet with the classic "you don't seem autistic" said to the person conditioned tonot present that way.

[-] WalrusDragonOnABike@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Good luck with it! Hopefully you don't get the "autistic people can't be trans" response. I sorta fell into that thinking when I was younger, but more in a "I must be missing something" since I knew I didn't get gender as a whole. Unfortunately too many people are willing to weaponize their ignorance instead of just admitting they don't understand something.