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Specifically the younger ones here and the ones who don't have any kids. So my mom couldn't care less, but my dad really wants me to have a kid and says things like that I'll have a man if I do this, or a man if I look a certain way. Here's the thing: he knows I have a fiancée but I haven't told him about my boyfriend because IDK how he feels about the whole poly thing. He doesn't seem to care but he'd rather I got married/engaged to a man.

Also, he constantly talks about how I would be the perfect mother and such and he would love biological grandkids, but I can't really have biological grandkids because both of my partners are female at birth. I don't really want kids anyway as I don't wanna go through the aspect of getting pregnant. He's nonbinary, so I'm still a lesbian and he says I can be due to that and part of the reason I only date women and enbies is, besides not really wanting to date a man, is that I've talked to men before and several of them wanted to get me pregnant, didn't respect my wishes, and once I was bisexual as a teenager, they ignored and tried to erase my identity and acted like I was a straight girl only capable of falling in love with him.

Now I won't say all men are like this, because they're not, but this has been my experience.

Sorry for ranting so much but ughhhhh

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[-] tiredofsametab@fedia.io 1 points 1 week ago

Neither of my biological parents nor their current partners directly pressured me. Mom dropped hints, but no direct pressure and I think that's fine. My living grandparents haven't said a word about it. My in-laws asked once and haven't brought it up again. My grandfather-in-law has directly talked to me about it (Japanese guy in his late 80s), and I would say somewhat pressured us, but not severely so. I'm in my 40s and my wife her 30s. I've had a vasectomy (none of the family know that), so zero chance of biological kids. Adoption looks increasingly unlikely, though never had a strong chance to begin with.

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