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Does anyone else have parents who want you to have kids? (piefed.social)
submitted 1 week ago by wendyz@piefed.social to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world
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Specifically the younger ones here and the ones who don't have any kids. So my mom couldn't care less, but my dad really wants me to have a kid and says things like that I'll have a man if I do this, or a man if I look a certain way. Here's the thing: he knows I have a fiancée but I haven't told him about my boyfriend because IDK how he feels about the whole poly thing. He doesn't seem to care but he'd rather I got married/engaged to a man.

Also, he constantly talks about how I would be the perfect mother and such and he would love biological grandkids, but I can't really have biological grandkids because both of my partners are female at birth. I don't really want kids anyway as I don't wanna go through the aspect of getting pregnant. He's nonbinary, so I'm still a lesbian and he says I can be due to that and part of the reason I only date women and enbies is, besides not really wanting to date a man, is that I've talked to men before and several of them wanted to get me pregnant, didn't respect my wishes, and once I was bisexual as a teenager, they ignored and tried to erase my identity and acted like I was a straight girl only capable of falling in love with him.

Now I won't say all men are like this, because they're not, but this has been my experience.

Sorry for ranting so much but ughhhhh

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[-] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago

Yes.

I'm male, 23.

My family are immigrants from China to the US.

My mom is pressuing my older brother to get married.

This is a very "Traditional Chinese Culture" thing... marriage is like very important in their view.

Bro's kinda relunctant but now he's just going along with it.

He's 5 years older than me. He hasn't exactly been a great brother to me... idk how he'd manage to be a father...

They have visas to China for "visiting relatives" and they have plane tickets already booked and they're departing next month... but I overheard them talking about marriage... so mom is literally trying to set the stage for him to meet girls lmao

She has some friends network thing that introduced him to some girl which they added each other on WeChat...

He's weird conspiracy theroist and racial/cultural supremacist...

So yeah... good luck bro lmfao

My mom haven't really pushed it to me yet... I guess being the 2nd child I'm just a "backup" to her lol...

I do want children tho... maybe...

My childhood was "meh" and I'd like to recreate the good aspects of it for another soul, and importantly never repeat my parents mistakes. To keep the wholesomeness alive in the world.

The money aspect is gonna be crutial in my decision...

If I don't get inheritance... I don't think I would be doing this... kids are expensive... economy is stuggling...

If I do get my half of the inheritance... then the money element is checked off the list and then I'd have to evaluate if I'd be a good father...

I think the issue is finding someone I like and compatible with...

this post was submitted on 28 Mar 2026
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