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I can't stim (stupid post I know)
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I hope you find your stims again. I would consider what you need instead of what is given to you from outside to stim with, I feel like those are pretty restrictive and stimming can be so many things, all of which are valid. I am just starting to understand mine.
My stims are pretty varied, some good and some bad. When alone I tend to pick on my cuticles, been doing that since I was a kid and can't seem to stop. I also mouth stim with a vape, also not great.
In public I stim with water and my water bottle. It took me decades to realize this is what I do. Not bad because I am always well hydrated as a result.
In school I used to draw in my notes all the time. Or decorate them in elaborate ways. I draw patterns when I am on the phone or otherwise need to focus.
Took up crocheting granny squares at uni to be able to sit in long seminars where scribbling is more visible. Decided to call the result my degree blanket which I'll put together once I graduate. I am not really into crochet or knitting, but the squares are done fast enough to not make me bored and you can make all the colours. Started making them at team meetings at work too. The square is low effort and fast enough to get some nice dopamine from a finished square, I also tend to gamify it by seeing how many I can make per meeting.
I often click my name tag thingy, it makes a delicious snap. I don't do this around others though.
I listen to pretty high energy EDM at work or when studying. It keeps me going. Not sure if it's a stim exactly but it stimulates me. I also sometimes do a little dance when alone and listening to my music.
I also stim by lifting weights or other hard physical effort, eating delicious things, by observing nature or animals and many other things, but not sure what counts as a stim exactly. Personally considering it to be the things that keep me stimulated/deliver dopamine.