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submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by lilypad@hexbear.net to c/neurodiverse@hexbear.net

kinda in my head, a little sad. I want to be how I used to be, before life happened. A little dramatic this post, I guess.

How do you stim? I can't do it anymore. I used to, when I was younger, I would wave my arms and say random things and vocalize stuff and sing. But that was a long time ago, and I've long since been trained out of it, both explicitly and implicitly.

So... How do you do it? How do I stim again? I can't even pick up the stimtoys they put out in meetings for fear of someone seeing me. But... It makes me feel better, but I can only ever let myself do it when I'm alone. Maybe its not even stimming if I can prevent the behavior like that. But, I would like to be able to do the things that help me feel ok.

What's wrong with me?

Edit: y'all make me feel ok, make me feel kinda not broken. Thank you <3

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[-] boboblaw@hexbear.net 2 points 2 weeks ago

my stims are very vocal and i only feel safe to do them around my partner but in all other situations i just mask them away too

I will also sing gibberish to my cat. A couple of times it's become obvious that a neighbor was walking by within earshot, but I don't care anymore. I used to be really anxious about things like that but I've embarrassed myself so many times that I am now immune.

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