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this post was submitted on 01 Apr 2026
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That is a survival mechanism you’re describing, and it is very real. Idk if you’re a minor and/or otherwise dependent on her care, if so this is a big factor.
My attachment withered away long after a lifetime of abuse, and it took me years to stop protecting her even in the way I talked about her. What a sick and twisted feeling to hate someone so much, resent the pain they gave you, yet still seek their approval and yearn for the ‘good’ times.
I’m sorry you have gone and are going through this, and can assure you that you deserve the love you seek - it likely lies with someone else.