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-When i screamed to a person because she was abusive towards a friend who has really a heart of gold. Usually, i never scream to anyone and feel guilty pretty easily, so people must have seriously crossed the line.

-When i ask for a hug. I'm not tactile and hugging is uncomfortable for me, even with persons i like, so when i'm the one who ask, be sure i really really like you.

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[-] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 day ago

Honestly? I'm of the mind that unless someone is altered by external matters, everything we do is in character, just not necessarily things we prefer. By external, I mean something like a drug, heat exhaustion, etc, that changes how our brain and body function, and thus can lead to success/behaviors that we wouldn't do at all otherwise.

Everyone feels anger and wants to scream a little, even if extremely rarely. That kind of thing, it's all a matter of how extreme the situation is vs the internal resources available. Stuff like asking for a hug is sorta inverse in vibe, but the same principle.

I get what you're asking, and I'm not poopooing it, just prefacing my actual response.

For me, my out of character stuff is when I'm social. I don't like most people, and dislike groups of people even when it's a group of people I like. So in those rare times when I want to go out among strangers, particularly if I want to go along, that's such a rare and unusual thing that I think it counts for what you're asking. But it is still part of my character, just a very tiny part (unlike me getting sick enough of people to do some screaming lol)

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