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submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by cactus_head@programming.dev to c/adhd@lemmy.world

We have all seen those memes about how seeing people Info-dump is the hottest thing ever, but even in normal conversations listening to people talk is chore in of itself. I get bored quickly and look somewhere else or interrupt them with my own thoughts or try to predict what they are going to say.

It feels like i am more interest in myself and what i care about than what the other person has to say,who they are or what they care about.

And yes, i am aware how beyond self-centered that is and i do wish to work on that but i am also wondering if others have similar experience.

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[-] Trashboat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 weeks ago

I definitely feel this at times. I’ll understand what someone’s saying with the first sentence or so and know where they’re going and have a response formulated… and then there’s another paragraph that doesn’t affect the point, just expository stuff or context and the like, all the while my brain is screaming to continue with the core of the conversation and get the info across. It’s a low level sort of agony to have information come across so slowly when my brain is constantly trying to be on the move. It sucks because it does feel 100% entirely selfish and I know that and do my best to deal with it and just listen, but it doesn’t change how painful it really can feel sometimes. I think maybe a part of it is I know just how fleeting my thoughts are, so if I don’t get it across immediately when it’s relevant I’ll likely just entirely forget it. And oh man when someone else’s paragraph continues beyond the relevance of your point and you’re left trying to figure out if you should just blurt out what you wanted to say when you can while you remember it or if you should just drop it and continue the conversation they were moving onto… conversations be tough sometimes

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