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submitted 4 days ago by userreality@lemmy.zip to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I genuinely don’t understand why society treats social interaction like it’s one of the most important things in life.

If someone spends a weekend alone, people assume they’re lonely. If someone has no interest in constant messaging, group chats, or hanging out every week, people think something must be wrong.

Meanwhile, a lot of social interaction seems repetitive. The same conversations, the same small talk, the same routines repeated over and over.

People talk about socialising as if it’s automatically meaningful, but for many interactions the main purpose seems to be avoiding boredom or avoiding being alone.

If somebody has no friends it’s often treated like a tragic disaster, but what if that’s actually what they prefer?

Maybe I’m missing something, but I don’t see why being comfortable alone is viewed as strange while constantly needing people around is viewed as normal.

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[-] meerstyler@feddit.org 4 points 4 days ago

This is a bit tedious imho. I am a Father of two. My wife and me are both part time workers, we share caretaking and household together. We managed to organise a free evening (~6 -10) per week for each of us. There are grandparents and friends that have kids too who make it possible.

[-] antbricks@lemmy.today 1 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago)

Sounds like you have a pretty sweet deal if you can get by with part time work (with health insurance somehow, I assume) and have nearby grandparents who babysit regularly (and for free). I can't think of anyone I know with that setup, but I mostly know full time professionals who moved away from parents for school/job. Different circles, I guess.

this post was submitted on 09 Jun 2026
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