Well, i can’t speak to your experience but I’m a commie who doesn’t dig a forced central planning authority. Or death threats even!

Well that's a breath of fresh air. That's very different from what I've seen. I do have to point out what I said elsewhere, that I feel Communists have a responsibility to speak against violent communism, the same way "good cops" can only be good if they speak out against bad cops. (I know how most Communists feel about police, but at least I hope you can appreciate the intent of the parallel)

For my part i get called a “traitor” and such by libs often, simply for criticizing the DNC et al.

I think using the word "traitor" in a situation like that is terrible. I do take it personally if someone treats the DNC as "just as bad as Trump" after he managed to cause an unprecedented amount of devastation between his immigration policies, "pay me" COVID handling, and open hatred of marginalized groups and "great people on both sides" support for groups like the KKK... But as much as I am disappointed when people put even a moderate like Biden in the same boat as him, I wouldn't use the word "traitor".

But your point stands, no death threats.

I would love if I met more Communists who are more willing to have constructive conversation with the other Leftist groups, instead of the ones that group all of us in a wide-net neoliberal basket that includes everyone from Bernie Sanders to Adolf Hitler. So, thank you :)