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this post was submitted on 12 Sep 2023
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No Stupid Questions
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Oh no, you're a human being reacting positively to positive reinforcements.
Mate, this is how social media is supposed to work. You're being gamed at a deeply instinctual level. The only way to win is not to play. On that note: I should log off. Bye.
Narrator: They did not log off
*sigh* you got me..
I'm not saying you should do this but it would have been really funny if you just deleted your account lol
That would indeed have been a power move. But let's be real: I'm as addicted to this stuff as the next one. It helps to know how it works to keep it in check.
The Internet is fun!
This is one of those things that, once you're aware of the effect, you can make more-conscious choices about. It doesn't make you immune from the effects, but perhaps you can notice them more easily and process them sooner. This might be a way to practise not comparing yourself to others, which I consider a skill for everyone to cultivate.
If it seems like you never progress and you just keep chasing engagement, then get out and walk in nature more, if that option is available to you. Building a habit like that might provide you with the attention capacity you need to let the social media stuff in without it consuming you.
I still chase engagement, but not nearly as much as I did three years ago. It takes time, but it can change.
Even so, remember that you want to be accepted and loved. That seems unlikely ever to change. Maybe you can find that sense of belonging somewhere else.
Good luck.